Chinese attitudes dating
Maybe they also think that a foreign woman might expect from their man that he’s telling his feelings straight out several times a day, something a shy Japanese man just won’t do.
Another problem is that many of the Japanese men seem to be afraid of their English ability and thus fail to approach a foreign woman.
For some guys it really gets to their heads and they start bragging about it like crazy as part of the superstar syndrome.
The complete opposite is the case for (Western) foreign women in Japan.
I also experienced that they’re unable to do anything on their own.
When I ask them about how they got their cellphone or credit card they just answer they don’t know because their wife did it for them.
Things that they fear a foreign woman would not agree to do (e.g.
stay home, take care of the kids, always pour new alcohol into his empty glass etc.).
However, be warned: If you want to read about bragging stories of all those Western guys who get laid a hundred times per day, then you came to the wrong place. You certainly won’t find that here – and not from a foreign girl like me!
It is by far not impossible and I know quite a few girls who don’t only have a Japanese boyfriend, but are also married to a Japanese man, but it is still the BIG exception!
Some of us will go through a hard time here in Japan.
I’m sure you have your own and there’s much more behind all this, but that’s it for starters, I guess.
As a result, dating in Japan is usually quite easy for men.
For some reason (maybe through the consumption of too many Hollywood movies) Japanese women think that foreign men are like that!